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in news resources Aware Parents, Caretakers and Children Can Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse Aware Parents and Caretakers Can Better Help A Sexually Abused Child Recognizing that the child has been sexually abused Helping the child talk about abuse Seeking professional support to help the child heal Understanding, Preventing and Coping with Child Sexual Abuse - A Short Recap Myths and Facts about Child Sexual Abuse Statistics of prevalence of Child Sexual Abuse in India Laws on Child Sexual Abuse in India Resources Available Related Links Glossary Also visit Arpan's blog on Child Sexual Abuse http://arpancsa.blogspot.com/
Child sexual abuse is ANY ACT directed at a child by an adult or older person for the sexual gratification of the adult or older person. It includes:
Emphasise that they must say "NO" to any action/touch that causes discomfort or unease to them. If the child is feeling uneasy about anybody giving them a hug, don’t pressurise them to do so. Respect the child’s liking/disliking to touch and hugs. Most importantly you must teach them RULES FOR PERSONAL SAFETY RULE NO. 1 • It is NEVER all right for someone to TOUCH, LOOK or TALK about one’s private body parts except to keep them clean and healthy. It is never alright for someone older or bigger to ask the child to TOUCH, LOOK or TALK about their private body parts. RULE NO. 2 • If someone tries to break this rule, say "NO" and RUN AWAY. RULE NO. 3 • TELL someone you trust and KEEP TELLING until you get the help you need.
Give this information in
an age appropriate manner.
Step 1: Recognizing
that the child has been sexually abused
Step 2:
Helping the child
talk about
abuse
Step 3: Seeking professional support to help the child heal
Social Withdrawal
Repeated urinary infections
Hostility or aggression
Unexplained pain swelling in genital
area
Passive or overly pleasing behaviour
Hints, indirect comments about the
abuse
Drop in academic performance
Use of abusive sexual language
Eating disorders, anxiety, depression
Sexualized behaviour
Suicide attempts
Sexual activity at an early age
Important:
These behavioural changes MAY
be indicative of sexual abuse, but are NOT necessarily a
result of sexual abuse, there could be other factors as well.
Step 2:
Rule # 2: Make sure the child understands Rule # 1. Always keep the above rules in mind whilst talking to
the child. However before encouraging the child to talk, it is important
to first understand why they don’t talk about sexual abuse themselves, and
what enables them to talk about it sometimes later.
Why They Don’t Talk •
"How
do I say it? What words should I use?"
•
"Mummy
and Daddy won’t believe me!" •
"I
don’t even know how to say what happened, I just feel weird about it" •
"Uncle
didn’t really mean to be bad to me or did he?" •
"My
teacher might fail me if I tell Mummy" •
"I am
scared, Uncle told me not to tell anyone, it’s a secret."
Why They Talk, Eventually
·
Awareness and understanding of the abuse.
·
Discussion with an understanding parent or other adult with whom
they are comfortable.
·
Inability to bear the abuse anymore.
·
Physical illnesses following sexual abuse.
·
Secure adult relationships that provide confidence to deal with
prior trauma
·
Revelation during therapy for any other reason
·
Desire to prevent abuse of other children Create an understanding and open environment to help
the child talk about the abuse.
When children finally do talk about abuse, it’s very important to
handle it carefully.
Rules
in handling disclosure… •
Keep calm •
Believe the child •
Listen to the child •
Answer the child’s questions
honestly •
Respect the child’s privacy by
not telling other people •
Give positive messages: "I know
you could not help it" or "I am proud of you for telling" •
Report the abuse •
Arrange a medical exam
•
Get professional help It is of utmost importance to keep
open communication channels and have a good constant rapport with the
child.
DON'T
Blame the child
Panic or overreact
Pressure the child to talk
Confront offender in child’s
presence
Make the child repeat the story
Remember, disclosure is difficult for children. It may be days,
months, years or even never, for a victim to talk about sexual abuse. Be
patient and supportive.
Step 3:
Child sexual abuse is NOT the child’s fault – but the
child doesn’t understand that. Professional counselling helps the child: •
Realise that abuse is NOT his/her fault •
Get rid of the shame and guilt •
Feel accepted, safe and secure •
Rebuild their self esteem and confidence •
Minimise focus on the traumatic past, heal
and move on •
Come to terms with the consequences about
the abuser when
reported and action is taken The family also needs counselling to cope with the
abuse situation and help the child heal.
How Arpan can help
Pushpa Venkatraman,
Counsellor, Arpan,
M.A. in Psychology has had more than
20 years of experience in the field of child sexual exploitation. She has dealt
with several cases of Child Sexual Abuse and has conducted numerous prevention and training programs on Child Sexual Abuse.
She will be glad to guide you
based on her experience.
•
Sexual Abuse affects children negatively, yet most children don’t report
it. • Aware
parents, caretakers and children can help prevent child sexual abuse. •Teach
children about Safe and Unsafe Touch and to say "NO" to Unsafe Touch. • Teach
children Personal Safety Rules "NO", RUN, TELL, KEEP TELLING. • Aware
parents and caretakers can better help a sexually abused child by >> Step1
Recognizing that
the child has been sexually abused >> Step2
Helping the child
talk about abuse >> Step3
Seeking
professional support to help the child heal It is very important to remember and
remind the child that Sexual Abuse is NOT the child’s fault. Parents need to be compassionate, patient and encouraging.
MYTHS
FACTS
Men sexually abuse children because they cannot control their sexual
urges.
Sexual assaults are violent crimes committed by people who are in a
position of power and violate the trust placed in them.
Sexual assaults are involuntary acts committed by strangers in
the
dark.
The majority of sexual assaults are premeditated acts of aggression
committed by trusted people, often close friends and family members.
Decent girls don’t get sexually assaulted.
All females, from children to old women are prone to sexual abuse.
Children invite abuse by the way the dress.
Sexual abuse happens irrespective of the way the children dress.
A precocious child gets abused.
Perpetrator is not influenced by only children who may be precocious.
Children have to obey elders and cannot say “NO” when they are
affectionately addressed by an adult even if it makes them
uncomfortable. This is the Eastern culture!
Any person who is not comfortable with a touch or show of affection
has the right to say “NO” and the child needs to be empowered to do
so.
Children have vivid imagination and lie often when they speak of being
abused.
Children lack the language to “make up stories” of the abuse.
It is fine to promise the child confidentiality when he she confides
in you.
Care
should be taken while promising confidentiality in case the child
needs medical attention and the abuse is detected.
Sex with
minors who are virgins is a cure for people suffering from venereal
diseases.
Sex with minors is NOT a cure for venereal diseases. Only medical
treatment helps. The first ever National
Study on Child Abuse in April 2007, covering 13 states in India
and a sample size of 12,446 children
was released by Minister for Women and Child Development showing these
stark reality figures: • More
than 53% children report facing one or more forms of sexual abuse • 50% of
sexual offenders were known to the victim or were in positions of trust
(family member, close relative, friend or neighbour). • Onset of abuse is from 5 years of
age. • Boys
were equally at risk as girls.
Tulir- CPHCSA’s
study in 2006, conducted among 2211 school going children in Chennai,
indicates CSA prevalence rate of 42%. Children of all socio economic
groups were found to be equally vulnerable. While 48% of boys reported
having been abused, the prevalence rate among girls was 39%. 15% of both
boys and girls had been severely abused.
In a survey with 350
school girls in New Delhi by Sakshi in 1997, 63% had experienced CSA at the hands of family
members; and 25% of the girls had either been raped, made to masturbate
the perpetrator or engage in oral sex.
Another 1997 study on middle and upper class women from Chennai, Mumbai,
Delhi, Kolkata and Goa by RAHI revealed that 76% of respondents had
been sexually abused as children, with 71% been abused either by relatives
or by someone they knew and trusted.
Samvada’s 1996 study on students in Bangalore states that 47% of the
respondents had been sexually abused; 62% of whom had been raped once and
38% of whom had suffered repeated violations.
According to The Convention on the Rights of the Child, Article 1 defines
“the child” as “every human being below the age of 18 years unless
under the law applicable to the child, majority is attained earlier”.
In the
Indian legal system, the child has been defined differently in the various
laws pertaining to children.
The
Indian Penal Code defines the child as being 12 years of age, whereas the
Indian Traffic Prevention Act, 1956 defines a ‘minor’ as a person who has
completed the age of 16 years but not 18 years. Section 376 of IPC,
which punishes the perpetrators of the crime of rape, defines the
age of consent to be below 16 years of age, whereas Section 82 & 83 of
the IPC states that nothing is an offence done by a child under 7
years, and further under 12 years, till he has attained sufficient
maturity of understanding the nature of the Act and the consequences of
his conduct on that occasion.
There
are very few sections under the Indian Penal Code that deal with child
sexual abuse. Some terrible home truths are:
The laws for women are extended to include children.
The major weakness of these laws is that only penile penetration
is considered a grave sexual offence. The crime is considered lesser
when it is oral, or through penetration with an object.
Although section 377, dealing with unnatural offences, prescribes seven
to ten years of imprisonment, such cases can be tried in a magistrates
court, which can impose maximum punishment of three years.
If the abuse is repeated several times it affects children more
severely, however as yet there is no law for repeated offenses against
the one child.
How do
we apply section 354, on outraging the modesty of women, with respect to
children?
The
gravity of the offence under section 509, dealing with obscene gestures,
is less. Yet even in such cases, the child’s psyche may be affected as
severely as in a rape.
Status
There also
exists a differential definition for “boys and girls”. This is clearly
seen in the Juvenile Justice Act, which defines a male minor as
being below 16 years and a female minor as being below 18 years of age.
In the
Indian context the age of an individual in order to be determined as a
“child” is NOT uniformly defined. The consequence of this is that
it offers various gaps in the legal procedure which is used by the guilty
to escape punishment.
In cases of
rape the burden of proof is on the victim of rape, however if the victim
is a minor, the question of giving consent does not arise, as consent of a
minor is not concerned as consent in the eyes of the law. In cases of CSA,
at present the law that is referred to is section 376 of the IPC, where
the age of consent is above 16 years.
Urgent
Action
Current
Status in 2007
One positive development
in this regard has been the preparation of a draft by the Ministry of
Women and Child Development. The Offences Against Children Bill, 2005,
in circulation since January this year, is hailed by child rights
activists as a landmark document; it is the first time that a law
specifically aimed at protecting children's rights has been under debate.
"So far there was not a
single law aimed at safeguarding children and protecting them against
abuse. Offences against children were so far booked under laws under the
IPC, which at times failed to result in prosecution and conviction simply
for the reason that crimes involving children need to be handled with
different tools," said Rajmangal Prasad, director, Pratidhi, another NGO
active in the field of child rights. According to him, if the proposed
draft does become law, it will go a long way to check child trafficking
because specific sections in the draft deal with precisely this issue.
Furthermore, the
definition of trafficking goes beyond trafficking for commercial sex. The
proposed document has specific sections dealing with various offences
against children, including sale/transfer, sexual assault,
sexual/physical/emotional abuse, commercial sexual exploitation, child
pornography, grooming for sexual purpose, incest, corporal punishment,
bullying and economic exploitation. The document makes it clear that
provisions in this law will be in addition to other legislation within the
IPC and the Juvenile Justice Act because these laws do not separately
cover persons who commit crimes against children and some other categories
of children under various circumstances of abuse, exploitation and
neglect.
Child rights activists
are calling for the draft under consideration to be made into a law so
that the suffering children have some hope. As the first paragraph of the
document states, "although India has the second largest child population
in the world, there is no separate legislation to deal with offences
against children". It is high time it was enacted.
Parenting the Sexually Abused Child
"Courage to heal" Activity book for adult
survivors – Sage Publications
By Indian NGOs and authors
Incest - the most
common form of child abuse - Anuja Gupta & RAHI -
www.rahifoundation.org
www.prevent-abuse-now.com
www.tulircphcsa.org
www.childsexualabuseinindia.blogspot.com
www.kidpower.org
www.cari.ie
www.protectkids.com
www.healthline.com
www.stairwayfoundation.org
www.ispcan.org
www.child-abuse.com
www.ecpat.net
Abuse, Sexual -
Contact(s)
between a child and an adult, or person significantly older, or in a
position of power or control over the child, where the child is being used
for sexual stimulation of the older person.
Accessory -
A
person who contributes to or aids in the commission of a crime, before or
after it is committed.
Accommodation -
Fitting in or
conforming to the environment. This can refer to positive changes such as
a child who shifts interests to accommodate to a new step-family, or
negative changes, such as a child who becomes less resistant and assertive
when repeatedly sexually abused by a member of the family.
Accomplice -
A person who, knowingly, assists the primary perpetrator in a crime.
Acquittal -
The finding in a
criminal case that a defendant is not guilty of the crime charged.
Adult survivor of sexual abuse -
A person who has
undergone abuse as a child.
Conduct Disorder -
A disruptive
behavioral disorder during childhood and/or adolescence, characterized by
persistent violation of the rights of others. This is a pattern often
found in children legally determined to be delinquent, and can sometimes
be found in adolescents who commit sexual offenses to younger and more
vulnerable children as one of many exploitative and negative behavioral
patterns.
Defense Mechanism -
Unconscious attempts to provide relief from emotional conflict. Common
ones include; denial, displacement, dissociation, projection,
rationalization, and regression. There are others. Offenders almost always
use denial to reduce the negative self-esteem that comes from realizing
how destructive child molestation behaviors are.
Defendant -
The alleged
wrong doer in a criminal or civil case.
Delusion -
A false belief
system despite clear external evidence to the contrary. The most common
delusions are of persecution or grandeur.
Denial -
One of the primitive
defense mechanisms involving disavowal of negative thoughts, feelings or
behaviors that are true or have occurred. It differs from lying in that
the person, at least partially, believes his/her own distortion. Rejecting
the full reality and responsibility of an inappropriate behavior. Denial
is common among sex offenders and persons with substance addictions.
Developmental Disability
- A
substantial handicap or impairment occurring prior to the age of 18.
Deviant Sexual Arousal
- A pattern of sexual interest for inappropriate activities or objects.
Sexual interest in prepubescent children is one example and is referred to
as Pedophilia. Many other forms of deviant sexual arousal are also
possible.
Empathy -
The capacity for participating in another person's feelings or ideas;
putting oneself into the psychological frame of reference of another
person so the other person's thinking, feeling, and acting are understood.
During the act of abuse of a child, empathy is usually missing from the
abusing adult. Thus, measurement of empathy is thought to be an important
aspect to assessment of recidivism risk for abusers.
Enuresis -
Repeated voiding
of urine into inappropriate places past the age of 4 and not due to a
direct physiologic problem. Enuresis can be a symptom of many different
problems, sometimes but not always, including sexual abuse.
Homosexuality -
Sexual interest in persons of the same gender. Homosexuality is no longer
considered a disorder and is currently believed to be unrelated to
increased probability of sexual orientation toward children.
Hostile Witness -
A witness who is subject to cross-examination by the same party who called
him/her as a direct witness due to antagonism demonstrated during DIRECT
EXAMINATION.
Hymen
- Thin membranous tissue covering the opening to the vagina. It may be of
various normal configurations other than the most commonly known shape of
a ring of tissue narrowing the vaginal opening.
Incest -
Sex / sexual relations with a relative.
Interrogation -
An interview of a suspect believed to have committed a crime with the goal
being a confession. An interrogation is not the same as an interview in
that a conclusion has already been reached by the law enforcement
investigator and the goal is less focused on obtaining new information
Juvenile -
In Georgia, a
person under the age of 18; MINOR.
Juvenile Court -
A court
specifically established to hear cases concerning
minors as victims of deprivation or as perpetrators of
juvenile crimes.
Mental Status -
Psychological and behavioral functioning determined through observation
and questioning. A "mental status exam" reviews such functioning covering
such things as; affect, speech, thought content, perception, and cognitive
functions.
Multi-Disciplinary Team
(MDT) -
Collaborative efforts of professionals from different disciplines toward a
common goal. Effective intervention of child sexual abuse seems to be best
accomplished through an MDT approach in which the common goal of reducing
child sexual abuse, and reducing the negative effects of child sexual
abuse, have more characteristics of O-AFFECT than pursuing one's
individual or one's profession's goals while ignoring the broader goals of
the entire team.
Perpetrator/Abuser -
The
person who sexually abuses a child for his/her own sexual gratification.
Pedophilia -
One of the
PARAPHILIAS indicating sexual interests and behavior by an adult generally
towards prepubertal children.
Pedophile -
An adult who indulges in
sexual acts with a minor child and attains sexual gratification.
Posttraumatic Stress
Disorder (PTSD) - A disorder following exposure to an overwhelming stressor
involving threat of injury, death or threat to self plus a feeling of
extreme helplessness and fear followed by symptoms of persistent mental
re-experiencing of the trauma, avoidance of things associated with the
trauma which are not dangerous, and hyper arousal of the AUTONOMIC NERVOUS
SYSTEM. Many victims of sexual abuse show some or all signs of PTSD,
although some show none of these symptoms
Prevention -
Taking active steps that reduce the PROBABILITY that an undesirable
outcome may occur. Prevention of sexual abuse must include experiences for
children and families that support thoughts, feelings and behaviors in
opposition to abusive actions.
Probation -
A method of allowing a person convicted of a minor offense to remain in
community but having to follow special rules, and being supervised by a
Probation Officer.
Prognosis -
The prediction
of the future course of an illness including mental health problems.
Projective Tests -
Psychological
tests used for diagnosis in which there is a wide range of possible
responses thought to allow for a "projection" of internalized issues into
the test data. Examples include projective drawing tests, inkblots, and
imaginative story telling to pictures. Projective tests are useful in
uncovering unconscious material, but tend to be less RELIABLE in scoring
compared to objective tests that are NORMED. The value of projective test
results is highly dependent on the clinical skill of the examiner.
Psychiatric Social Worker
- A
social worker with a master's or doctorate degree and specialized
psychiatric training. In
Georgia,
the term more commonly used is Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW).
Psychiatrist -
A licensed physician with specialized training in the diagnosis, treatment
and prevention of mental disorders. A Board Certified Adult Psychiatrist
has a 4 year medical degree, medical license, and specialized psychiatric
training to work with adults. A Board Certified Child Psychiatrist has
this training as well as another subspecialty with children and
adolescents. Psychiatrists can do psychotherapy, medication, and
hospitalize persons for psychiatric disturbances. Sometimes their medical
training is also related to psychiatric symptoms actually tied to physical
problems (e.g. depression in a patient due to thyroid problems).
Psychologists -
In Georgia, a person holding a doctoral degree (Ph.D. or Psy.D.) in
psychology from an accredited program. There are many different specialty
areas of psychology, not all of which deal with persons' mental,
behavioral or emotional problems. School Psychologists must be certified
through the State Department of Education to be employed within the
schools. Clinical and Counseling Psychologists must be licensed in order
to practice psychology independently.
Psychopathology -
The
manifestation of significant mental disorders. Also, the study of the
origins and processes of these disorders.
Psychosexual Assessments
-
Interview approaches and tests focused on sexual functioning, especially
sexual dysfunctioning and PARAPHILIAS.
Psychosexual Development
- A
psychoanalytic term referring to stages of development from a Freudian
perspective.
Psychosomatic -
An adjective used to describe physical symptoms that are at least
influenced by psychological factors (e.g. headaches related to tension).
Psychotherapy -
An intervention approach to reduce psychological symptoms.
Psychotropic -
An adjective describing medications used for psychiatric symptom relief.
Relapse -
An individual who has recovered or improved and subsequently experiences a
return of symptoms is said to have experienced a relapse. A relapse of
paraphilic symptoms that are illegal would be considered an example of a
relapse and of RECIDIVISM
Sexual Abuser
/Sex Offender - A person whose sexual behavior is directed at
another who refused, or were not able, to offer their consent.
Survivor
- The victim who learns to cope or is healed of the sexual abuse and has
learned to relegate it to his past events with the clear understanding
that he is not at fault. By this time he has more power to heal.
Sodomy -
Sexual penetration of the ANUS by the penis of a male
Traumatic Amnesia -
Difficulty being able to intentionally recall part or all of an extreme
trauma event which became dissociated from normal consciousness and
memory. Some of the worst trauma persons have experienced may be difficult
to intentionally recall and discuss because of the process of
dissociation. This subject is a topic of great controversy in contrast
with the explanation of FALSE MEMORY.
Vagina -
The female genital opening from the LABIA inside to the uterus.
Verdict -
The final
judgment of a jury or judge in either a civil or criminal case.
Vigilance -
Alertness to potential danger. In victims of severe trauma, vigilance
often includes the general alerting function or sentinel activity of the
nervous system resulting in over responding and difficulty in returning to
a relaxed state.
Victim
-
The
child who suffers the abuse and is helpless and powerless.
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