Your search has taken you to the Arpan website. We are an organization working to help children be safe.
You have reached here, which means you want to know about keeping yourself safe.
Great!!! There is a lot you can do to keep yourself safe.
In this section of the website, you will know about safe and unsafe touches and you can also learn about being assertive. You will know how to seek help in an unsafe situation. We will also share with you, Personal Safety Guidelines that you can use in unsafe situations.
- Safe is when there is no threat and you feel happy and comfortable.
- Unsafe is when you feel uncomfortable, scared, sad, and angry or confused.
Just as there are safe and unsafe situations, there are safe and unsafe touches as well. Some safe touches can be:
- There is a sudden thunder and you feel scared. Your mother gives you a hug to comfort you.
- It is your birthday, and your friends hug you.
Some unsafe touches/situations can be:
- Your swimming coach touches your Private Body Parts while teaching you swimming
- An uncle gives you your favorite toy/game and asks you to show your private body parts to him.
- Your friend shows you a magazine with pictures of people without clothes.
Your body belongs only to you. Your Private Body Parts are an important part of your body. The parts of our body that are covered with a swimming suit or under-garments are called Private Body Parts.
To keep yourself safe, here are 3 guidelines that you can use. These are called Personal Safety Guidelines
- Guideline 1 – IT IS NEVER ALRIGHT FOR SOMEONE TO TOUCH, LOOK AT OR TALK ABOUT YOUR PRIVATE BODY PARTS EXCEPT TO KEEP YOU CLEAN AND HEALTHY.
- Guideline 2 – If anyone makes you feel unsafe, you can say, “NO” ASSERTIVELY AND GET AWAY.
- Guideline 3 – IT IS HELPFUL TO TALK TO AN ADULT ABOUT AN UNSAFE SITUATION OR TOUCH. YOU CAN KEEP ON TELLING UNTIL YOU GET THE HELP YOU NEED.
When you say “No” to an unsafe touch or situation you are being ASSERTIVE. Being assertive is to protect your rights without violating the rights of others. It is an honest expression of your feelings and needs.
IT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT if someone breaks your Personal Safety Guideline 1.
So now you know what you can do when someone touches you, looks at or talks to you in an unsafe manner. But what are some guidelines that you can follow for staying safe online? For example, while you were searching for information on safety, what can you do if you come across a website with images of Private Body Parts?
If you see something online that makes you feel uncomfortable, unsafe or worried: leave the website, and talk to an adult so that you can block and report the page. Some other safety guidelines to follow online can be:
- Avoid posting any personal information online – like your address, email address or mobile number.
- Think before posting pictures or videos of yourself or for that matter anything. Once you’ve put a picture of yourself online most people can see it and may be able to download it, it’s not just yours anymore.
- Keep your privacy settings high. Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram – gives you the option to choose the level of Privacy setting.
- Never give out your passwords and make your passwords strong. Preferably, make your passwords 12 characters long including numbers, symbols, capital letters and small letters.
- Remember that not everyone online is who they say they are. People can create fake profiles. So think before you accept friend requests from people you have never met in real life.
- Think before meeting up with people you’ve met online. You can speak to an adult and keep them posted.
- Respect other people’s views, even if you don’t agree. Just because you disagree, don’t be rude. Refrain from posting anything that breaks other people’s Personal Safety Guideline 1
We would love to hear from you. If you want to know more about keeping yourself safe, you can write to us at email@example.com
We also conduct programmes on Personal Safety in schools and communities. This programme has already been conducted with over 1, 00,000 children just like you. In case you want us to conduct Personal Safety Education in your school you can either get in touch with us or ask your parents and teachers to contact us.
In case you are facing any unsafe situation or you know someone who is facing an unsafe situation, you can write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org or call us at +91 98190 86444
Here are some of the books which you can read through to understand more about Personal Safety Education.
Here is some video from organizations that you can watch for keeping yourself safe:
- Tickles and Hugs (English) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szSgwfbGzUc&t=493s
- Tickles and Hugs (Hindi) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3La2y_3jQIY&t=29s
If you want us to conduct Personal Safety Education in your school write to us on email@example.com or call +91-98190-86444